Remember why.

I was watching TV with the kids the other night and that old show "Malcom in the Middle" came on. If you haven't seen it you should...pretty funny show! This particular episode was full of flashbacks. The couple in the show has four boys, the oldest being about 16 in this episode. The storyline showed them as newly weds, so in love in their pristine white apartment excited about the birth of their new son. As the show goes on, the house gets dirtier, their clothes get raggier and they get angrier as the boys get older and more rambunctious! The final scene shows her pregnant with the fourth boy and as they are sitting in the rain, covered in mud, the three boys rolling around and yelling, smoke coming out of the house, her in labor and them screaming at each other she finally stops and says "We have to STOP this! We have to figure this out!" He of course thinking she means the hard financial times and the arrival of the baby says "I'll get another job". She says "No! We will always have hard times, we need to figure out a way to get THROUGH it without killing each other! We have to find US again!". She then makes him tell her seven things that he loves about her. By the end, they are both laughing, hugging and loving each other as much as they did on their wedding day.

We get into such routines in our lives. There is work, raising kids, finances, house work, who left what dish in the sink, who's turn is it to take out the garbage, why did he leave his dirty socks in the middle of the floor AGAIN, why did she leave the laundry in the dryer AGAIN. We forget about the love. The passion. We forget the first kisses and the butterflies. The twinkle in his eye, the bounce in her step, the joys of falling in love and being so completely happy that it seems the world has stopped spinning and the two of you are on top of it!

Divorce is so common now. People give up. People forget. So many lives get ruined, torn apart by fighting, bitterness, sadness. If only two people would remember why they fell in love and remember the wonderful things about each other and WORK to fix it, the world would be a better place. At least their world would be, and the world of their babies.

So I challenge all of you to try this in your own marriage. When you are fighting, at each others throats and it just seems there is no end to it, stop, look at your partner and say, "Tell me three." Then the other has to stop and say three reasons they love the other. What a fabulous way to not only stop the heat, but also to remember why.

This video is kinda hokey...but it was the only one I could find with decent audio of this amazing song. Enjoy.